How you can overcome your addiction to unhappiness

September 27, 2024
A woman in a purple tank top is standing in front of a mirror

Notice how easy it is to hang on to anger, shame, guilt, worry, and other negative emotions? Are these emotions so horribly delectable you just can't let go?


You're not alone. However, you could be worsening your health by giving in. Scientists have discovered negative emotions have an addictive quality that trigger the reward centers in the brain. In other words, you feel like you're rewarding yourself when you succumb to negative emotions.


Worry activates areas of the brain that trick you into feeling soothed. Pride and its shadow twins of shame and guilt are the most powerful triggers of the brain's reward centers. On some twisted level, these yucky emotions feel good.


As with many addictions, negative emotions are fine in moderation (and even beneficial but toxic when indulged in regularly They raise stress and inflammation, our two biggest foes when battling autoimmune disease and chronic illness.

Four scientific tips to boost happiness

Happiness is effortless for some people. Good for them. The rest of us have to work at positivity the same way we do at diet and exercise.

If you're a pro at managing your autoimmune disease through diet and lifestyle, don't overlook how influential feelings and attitude are on your health.


Here are some tips from a neuroscientist to wean yourself off an unhappiness addiction:


1. Activate the reward center of the brain with gratitude instead of negativity. Shame, guilt, and worry trigger the same brain chemicals gratitude does. Except gratitude doesn't make you sick; it improves health.


Don't have anything to be grateful for? Doesn't matter. It's the searching for gratitude that elicits positive benefits.


2. Label negative feelings. Labeling your negative feeling in a few words activates different areas of the brain that lighten the negativity load. Practicing mindfulness is healthier than suppressing emotions.


3. Make a decision when overcome with worry and anxiety. When you're besieged by worry, create an intention, set a goal, take action - just do something. This boosts the reward center of the brain and takes it off that exhausting hamster wheel. Don't trap yourself with making the best decision or the one you should make. Instead, shoot for a “good enough" decision that you make for you.


4. Socialize and touch. Appropriately, of course. As far as the brain is concerned, social exclusion is an injury while healthy socialization is an elixir. Even little touches - handshakes, pat on the back, tap on the arm, a hug - amplify the health benefits of socialization. Got no one to touch? Get a massage. And don't rely solely on texting or the Internet for your socialization. Research shows they don't impart the same benefits “in-real-life" human company does.



Basically, working towards positivity exercises your brain and helps pull it out of destructive, self-perpetuating loops that raise stress hormones and drive inflammation. Brain exercises aren't just about crossword puzzles and Sudoku - you also need to exercise the brain's positivity centers. Ask my office for more information on brain health.

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Save paperwork or computer work for times when physical activity feels more difficult. Keeping a simple journal of your daily pain patterns can help identify routines that support better days. Use Helpful Gadgets That Reduce Strain Modern assistive devices aren't just for people with significant mobility limitations. Many simple tools can reduce stress on joints and muscles while making everyday tasks easier. Helpful options include: Grabber or reacher tools for picking up objects Electric can openers and jar openers Long-handled shoehorns Rolling laundry baskets Shower chairs or handheld showerheads Supportive seat cushions Heating pads or reusable cold packs for temporary symptom relief when appropriate Voice-controlled smart home devices for lights, thermostats, and reminders These small conveniences can reduce repetitive movements that contribute to discomfort while helping you maintain independence. Organize to Minimize Extra Movement A little organization can save hundreds of unnecessary steps each week. Try creating dedicated stations throughout your home: Keep medications in one organized location. Store cleaning supplies on every floor if you have a multi-level home. Keep chargers, reading glasses, and frequently used items within easy reach. Use baskets or rolling carts to transport multiple items in one trip. The less unnecessary movement required, the more energy you can devote to activities you enjoy. Make Rest Part of Your Routine Rest is an important part of managing chronic pain, but staying inactive for long periods can sometimes increase stiffness and reduce mobility. Finding a balance between activity and rest is key. Instead of waiting until you're exhausted, consider scheduling short recovery breaks throughout the day. 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Self-management techniques, combined with guidance from your healthcare provider, are widely recognized as valuable tools for improving daily function and quality of life for people living with chronic pain. If chronic pain is interfering with your ability to enjoy daily life, the team at Chronic Care of Richmond can work with you to develop a comprehensive, personalized treatment plan that supports your long-term health, mobility, and overall well-being.
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